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Still here...
...himself and I. Where do I start? His health is deteriorating day by day. We have had a hectic time of late with him being rushed to...
unwillingcarer
Mar 22, 20231 min read
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I'm learning.
Just reflecting on the past eighteen months as my father's unwilling carer. The positive changes I have made have been vital for my...
unwillingcarer
Mar 5, 20232 min read
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When the carer realises...
the sweet old man she helps every day is not as kind and polite as he makes out. When I first met his present carer, I alluded to the...
unwillingcarer
Mar 4, 20233 min read
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(6) When...
it is Saturday again and I have a knotty nervousness in my stomach. The reason being, the past three Saturdays have been a rollercoaster...
unwillingcarer
Mar 4, 20232 min read
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New start, no chance.
Nearing the end of my 8th year, my father got a job in a different city. It was a long way across the country and involved a big move....
unwillingcarer
Feb 13, 20234 min read
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(5) When...
it's been a hectic 24 hours with my father having major catheter issues. My husband and I have tried sorting the problem as has a...
unwillingcarer
Feb 11, 20231 min read
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Disparity in care.
I have previously written about this but it is an ongoing occurrence since I have become my father's main carer. I am thinking about the...
unwillingcarer
Feb 11, 20233 min read
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I really shouldn't be surprised...
but sometimes he says or does things that still absolutely floor me. He has been having a few bowel issues recently. This has occurred in...
unwillingcarer
Feb 11, 20232 min read
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A year on.
This time last year we brought my father home from hospital. He had had a pacemaker fitted and due to that, his age and my vociferous...
unwillingcarer
Nov 23, 20221 min read
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(4) When.....
the first personal fall alarm for him didn't work out as he refused to use it so you wait a few weeks and then buy him a different type....
unwillingcarer
Nov 23, 20221 min read
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This is me...
I had an afternoon nap the other day and I woke up as a I heard crash, bang, wallop. Now I am not sure if that noise was in my dream or...
unwillingcarer
Nov 16, 20221 min read
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(3) When ...
this unwilling carer loses track of time due to a combination of menopausal brain fog and falling down YouTube rabbit holes. Then...
unwillingcarer
Nov 16, 20221 min read
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(2) When ...
...someone phones his landline and he answers but can't hear them as his TV is too loud so he gets frustrated and just shouts angrily at...
unwillingcarer
Nov 4, 20221 min read
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(1) When ...
You, his morning carer and him discuss the need for a personal alarm for him as he will be on his own more often in the future and he...
unwillingcarer
Nov 4, 20221 min read
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When....
...you're trying to be helpful and empty his catheter day bag into a bottle while he is lounging on his sofa. And he explodes with a...
unwillingcarer
Nov 3, 20221 min read
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Exhaustion
Browsing through my private personal journal posts, I found this: Physical exhaustion is 'better' than emotional exhaustion. [I mean...
unwillingcarer
Oct 24, 20223 min read
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Change of heart?
I have touched on this subject previously and it has been on my mind a lot lately. My father has always seemed to have a disregard and...
unwillingcarer
Oct 24, 20222 min read
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The weight of the world...
Weighs heavily on my shoulders at present. I am not ashamed to say I am struggling. Wow, that is a huge statement for me. Shame thrives...
unwillingcarer
Oct 10, 20223 min read
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Hello
I have been contemplating returning to this blog for some time. One of the reasons I stopped writing this for an audience was that our...
unwillingcarer
Sep 21, 20222 min read
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Right time
I have decided to continue writing this blog as it has definitely helped me but now is time to write with an audience of one, just me. I...
unwillingcarer
Jun 9, 20222 min read
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